Peter Clark

Trying my best to be an intentional, authentic and kind father and human.
(And also a Product Manager and tinkerer.)

How to Quit Intensive Parenting

So how do we move away from the cult of intensive parenting? Very carefully and intentionally. We have to start thinking of parenting not as a set of instructions but as several dials. Research suggests that certain dials, such as “display love,” “validate feelings,” and “set aside some regular quality time,” should absolutely be turned up to 10. Others, such as “solve your child’s (nonserious) problem for them,” should be pretty low. And many, such as “provide educational support” and “offer enrichment activities,” should be somewhere in the center. Your exact dial settings will depend on your values and your family situation, of course. All 10s and all ones are almost always a bad idea.

Waterstones opens 10 new stores a year as younger adults embrace reading

Managed to create an entire morning plan at Legoland so that we waited in 1 queue for the boats, and then really efficiently — without rushing! — did basically all the small kid rides at Legoland, skipping all queues.

My kids are living the dream today and I’m left wishing I had someone that could see and appreciate me working so hard to give my kids a great day.

Obviously it would be even nicer to collaborate with someone on all this, but I hope I can find someone that at least finds it (very) desirable in a partner since I increasingly feel this is something I am quite good at.

Parenting Pride

On the parenting pride of my big trip.

It lowkey sucks when you’re on vacation but the only parent within a group.
It’s difficult to persuade people without kids to stick to a kid schedule, there’s no other kids around, and it’s just generally more not less work…

Talk Club, a men’s mental health club about talking how you’re doing on a scale of 1-10

It’s our mission to change this [Mens suicide rates and declining mental health] through talking groups that start with asking ‘How are you? Out of 10?’ By putting a number on how we feel and explaining why, men have a way to open up and measure their mental fitness.

Why are kids pens circular rather than square? they roll away.. maybe triangular is the move…

US Dept of Commerce deal will grant US 15% of all revenue of AI chips sold to China

This seems smart in theory — make money when exporting high value things — but seems awful in reality as there is no way the US making $1.5B justifies giving China such advanced chips…

Cool app that turns an iOS device into a baby monitor (either speaker or microphone)

Photo

my mother was taking her dog for a walk and was bringing Henry; without thinking she tried to put a leash on Henry rather than her dog

things i forgot for our big trip:

  1. a bluetooth speaker

  2. an extra USB cable (i brought 1x cable but it has 2x ends, but i think I need another one)

One Way Parents Can Fight the Phone-Based Childhood

But if parents want their kids to put down their phones, they need to open the front door. Nearly three-quarters of the children in our survey agreed with the statement “I would spend less time online if there were more friends in my neighborhood to play with in person.”

A pair of cranes is raising an abandoned goose as their own

Teacher AI use is already out of control and it's not ok

I teach HS Science in the south. I can only speak for my district, buta few teacher work days in the wave of enthusiasm I'm seeing for AI tools is overwhelming. We're getting district approved ads for AI tools by email, Admin and ICs are pushing it on us, and at least half of the teaching staff seems all in at this point. I was just in a meeting with my team and one of the older teachers brought out a powerpoint for our first lesson and almost everyone agreed to use it after a quick scan- but it was missing important tested material, repetitive, and just totally airy and meaningless. Just slide after slide of the same handful of sentences rephrased with random loosely related stock photos. When I asked him if it was AI generated, he said 'of course', like it was a strange question. Then, I told the team I might go in a different direction because I wanted to avoid using AI in the classroom and the team lead made a face and told me that all of the lessons she brings for our meetings have been AI generated for the last year.

Constantly amazed at how often Product Managers jump on the AI bandwagon without full context. Eg: someone excitedly discussing the Agentic Shopify MCP when just using a simple Restful API is more than sufficient.

Inside the Dangerous, Secretive World of Extreme Fishing

An AI model to create parametric (!) 3d models

Works surprisingly well. It doesn't output Fusion360 files but you can adjust the parametric parameters within the UI.

The Quick [Japanese] Curry Brick Kit

Maybe my favourite food

New Burial!