the TJs chocolate bars with cornflakes are incredible
25 Things to Say to Your Children
"It’s so brave to feel your feelings; some people live their whole lives without being able to do that."
I was thinking: I wish there was a yoga equivalent for feelings, but maybe that is therapy?
I really didn’t want to golf [but golfing helped me connect with my friends]
Perhaps, I thought, a man’s life is less like a single tree and more like a garden in the wild, under constant threat of being reclaimed by nature. The bits we want to keep must be cared for, watered, maintained. Kind of like a golf course.
"Honestly u get a 10/10 for today"
— friend after hanging out with me and my kids after we made a "candy inspector" booth for a labour day parade.
Really surprised to hear such an in-depth segment on NPR this morning about Metal Gear Solid! Really good and it was hosted online here.
The Growing Cohort of Single Dads by Choice
Sometimes when he does, he thinks the father seems a little begrudging, walking slightly behind the child, and he wonders how many of these dads were told by their wife to take the kid out to play. He understands: He, too, is stretching to be not just a provider, that classic masculine trope, but also a nurturer—someone softer, more open. The other day, when he was visiting his cousin’s two daughters, the 5-year-old got in trouble and ran into the living room and hid behind the couch. He picked her up and took her to the mirror, and they looked at their reflections together. “You are wonderful,” he told her. “And you don’t have to worry about anything.”
I have been reading this book called Radical Acceptance and I am finding it to be very impactful.
I would go as far to say I am finding it to be shockingly impactful for me.
The book is about the notion that it is okay to not be okay. That when things feel difficult or painful, actually the best thing to do is not to try and fix it but to simply sit in that feeling and absorb it.
It also teaches you to take a "pause" when things seem particularly difficult. For me, I have an impulse to say "everything is fine" when I am struggling. I want to start taking a pause before I answer so I can be more mindful with how I reply.
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change
— Carl Rogers
The One Parenting Decision That Really Matters
There is more evidence for just how powerful role models can be. A different study that Chetty co-authored found that girls who move to areas with lots of female patent holders in a specific field are far more likely to grow up to earn patents in that same field. And another study found that Black boys who grow up on blocks with many Black fathers around, even if that doesn’t include their own father, end up with much better life outcomes.